You are right…not much is ever discussed or shared about the loss of a sibling. We were snot one year apart- through high school we were seen as “almost twins”. The way everyone around you grieves but you are left to fend for yourself emotionally because he was someone’s son which is the greater loss. Though I was in my mid-thirties I was expected to carry on and be strong for everyone else in my life. Simply put, the grief was so intense I can’t recall those first three years after his passing. I had married two weeks after his passing and when clouds lifted after that third year there were huge cracks in my marriage- that ultimately ended. I had to change how I approached life, work, and dealt with loss. I did it all without ever relying on a vice but I have never been the same.
It took years/decades but finally on the other side I am okay but all of the steps along the way were improvised then introspective.
I look forward to reading your journey of healing, acceptance, and flourishing as you continue to make it through the other side.
I totally understand. I lost my sister in 2018 and there has been a giant emotional “ hole” that my entire family feels. She was the funniest, and most loving person ever! The family dynamic has effectively changed.😞💔
I so want to read this! I lost both my parents to cancer when they and I were very young (I was 15 when I lost my mom. She was 36. I was 24 when I lost my dad. He was 46. Liver cancer that started as breast cancer & bone cancer took them.). No one writes about that! I looked on Amazon- NOTHING about losing your parents to cancer or even losing your parents as a child!
Ong- yes. Lost my little sister when I was 21 and she was 17. I was in college. Car accident. I sort of held it all and everyone together as my parents were devastated. Then when they seemed to be coping, I collapsed into a drunken mess. Lost 15 years of my life to that. It was so hard and people didn’t understand why I was so messed up. I lost my best friend and little sister- grief and survivors guilt plagued me most of my life.
Grief is a tough one to grow through. Still have moments of pain from the loss of my husband, nine years in October! Hugs to you, can’t wait to read your book!
You are right…not much is ever discussed or shared about the loss of a sibling. We were snot one year apart- through high school we were seen as “almost twins”. The way everyone around you grieves but you are left to fend for yourself emotionally because he was someone’s son which is the greater loss. Though I was in my mid-thirties I was expected to carry on and be strong for everyone else in my life. Simply put, the grief was so intense I can’t recall those first three years after his passing. I had married two weeks after his passing and when clouds lifted after that third year there were huge cracks in my marriage- that ultimately ended. I had to change how I approached life, work, and dealt with loss. I did it all without ever relying on a vice but I have never been the same.
It took years/decades but finally on the other side I am okay but all of the steps along the way were improvised then introspective.
I look forward to reading your journey of healing, acceptance, and flourishing as you continue to make it through the other side.
he won't be dragged out. it'll be on a gurney in a black plastic bag
I totally understand. I lost my sister in 2018 and there has been a giant emotional “ hole” that my entire family feels. She was the funniest, and most loving person ever! The family dynamic has effectively changed.😞💔
I so want to read this! I lost both my parents to cancer when they and I were very young (I was 15 when I lost my mom. She was 36. I was 24 when I lost my dad. He was 46. Liver cancer that started as breast cancer & bone cancer took them.). No one writes about that! I looked on Amazon- NOTHING about losing your parents to cancer or even losing your parents as a child!
I look forward to reading this!
Just watched the tribute of your sister, with your daughter, beautiful!😍
Ong- yes. Lost my little sister when I was 21 and she was 17. I was in college. Car accident. I sort of held it all and everyone together as my parents were devastated. Then when they seemed to be coping, I collapsed into a drunken mess. Lost 15 years of my life to that. It was so hard and people didn’t understand why I was so messed up. I lost my best friend and little sister- grief and survivors guilt plagued me most of my life.
Grief is a tough one to grow through. Still have moments of pain from the loss of my husband, nine years in October! Hugs to you, can’t wait to read your book!
I am going thru grief and want to read your writings on this cunning cruel monster .